Sunday, March 4, 2012

Let It Go

Yesterday, my best friend and I got matching tattoos. While we both share an slight obsession for ink and art, I'd like to share a little about the meaning behind 'Let It Go'. A concept neither of us have mastered but, who ever will? One of the qualities I admire most about my friend (@bunnieface of twitter, btw) is her passion for love. In times where I would have probably spazzed on someone and their momma she remains calm, seems to think logically and moves on to something more positive. She never seems to fester over the what ifs, how comes, and hypotheticals of loves lost. I, on the other hand...wear my heart on my sleeve.

As we get older, I am able to understand that the true beauty of life is in letting things go, letting life happen the way it will and trusting that the universe will take care of you and your heart.
"Having total control over a situation is realizing you have no control at all.." -Scorpio Blues "Second Guessing"
If you're reading this thinking 'Yea, but..' or you've caught yourself thinking 'If I do this...' 'Things will be different when..' man...no. Just stop. Step outside of yourself and admit that the situation is out of your hands, you will never control feeling or actions that aren't your own. When you love hard, losing is harder. I know...imma hard lover. If I want you, I need you and there isn't really any in between. I'll never believe loving someone with all your heart and hoping for the best is something to be ashamed about, it's a brave quality to have. Oftentimes you're stripped down to raw feelings with no one willing to go the extra mile for you. Most times, hard love is reciprocated with underappreciating, self centered, scared lovers giving you less than what you truly deserve, modifying old promises to make them sound new but never kept.

Letting it go is realizing and accepting there is nothing else you can do about the situation to change the outcome. Sometimes we are so aware of our good intentions we are unable to understand how someone else* cant see them too? Beyonce wasnt playing in 'Why dont you love me?' LOL. If you love something, fight for it, give it your best fight, dont let your pride stop you from fighting but find a balance between fighting for a purpose and fight an already lost battle. Thats growth, thats mature, thats love. Its as simple as saying to yourself 'I loved, I fought, I lost, I'm still a good woman.' Its about not letting the failed attempts taint your love, jade your heart and poison your mind. Its easy to trash talk love and blame the past, your past moved on while you were still holding on. Challenge yourself to do the same. Let it go.

There is a time when your body and mind make a connection and the love you've been giving becomes exhausting. Tired of asking questions, tired of feeling less than, tired of comparing yourself, tired of trying, tired of fighting, tired of not being heard, tired of needs not being met, tired of promises unkept, tired.  Thats when you have to let it go. Let it go in order to hold on to your love, sanity and dignity. Im the least competitive person in this world (I can really care less who wins what) but, losing in LOVE?! Every game is the championship when you love love. You win some, you lose some...but no failed attempt should fade your heart so black it could never love again. Dont let the past hold you back, your love is more powerful than the pain of it not being reciprocated. Its just more challenging to see the power in love than the power in pain. Easier to cry, than to hold back the tears. Easier to give up than to love like you never been hurt. Don't do whats easy, LOVE.

Letting it go can mean anything to you, reading this. Maybe your challenges are about letting go of doubt in a current relationship, maybe you need to let go of doubting yourself, maybe you want to rid yourself of whatever it is keeping you up and thinking at night. Whatever it may be in your life, I hope you are able to recognize what the set back. Acknowledgement is the first step of change. You are a beautiful, amazing, able human being on the verge of reaching your highest potential as soon as you Let It Go.











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